Sociopaths Hate the Truth and Anyone Who Advocates The Truth

Sociopaths In Our Midst Hate the Truth and Its Advocates

Posted By Rob on November 12, 2010

What is the one thing a sociopath does not want other people to know? The truth. More specifically, sociopaths do not want the truth about them to be known as they are insecure, malicious, and devious people. Beyond being embarrassed by the truth of their behaviors and thoughts, they have a deathly fear of being exposed and rejected. That’s in large part because they use lies, manipulations, and distortions to control other people and get what they want. If others were to know about their true nature, they realize that most would want nothing to do with them. They would lose the support networks of malicious minions they control and incite to abuse other people. Therefore sociopaths have a strong motivation to attack, discredit, harass, and ruin anybody who presents arguments and facts that might tend to raise questions and doubts about their behaviors and their false statements.

Many sociopaths are so insecure and malicious that they feel similarly motivated to go on the offensive, perhaps with lesser severity, in reaction to people who might embarrass them with obviously nasty (to them) comments like “Is that lettuce stuck between your teeth?” or “Your car is filthy! There’s a $3 carwash special across the street.” If that gets them unhinged, just imagine what being exposed as a child abuser, false accuser, liar, or thief will do.

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Definition of Addiction and Real Love

Addiction

Addiction is the compulsive use of any substance, person,
feeling, or behavior with a relative disregard of the potentially negative
social, psychological, and physical consequences.

This definition of addiction creates a much broader—and
more accurate—picture of addiction, which we will demonstrate
in much greater detail throughout the remainder of this article.

Addiction is not a disease. Addiction is a response to pain.

Real Love

But not just any kind of love will do. The only kind
of love that can fill us up and make us whole emotionally is Real Love.

Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person
without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.

It’s also Real Love when other people care about
our happiness unconditionally. With Real Love, people are not disappointed
or angry when we make our foolish mistakes, when we don’t do
what they want, or even when we inconvenience them personally.

Addiction and Real Love

This article is a great description of what addiction is, where it comes from and what REAL LOVE is and how it relates to addictions.

clipped from www.reallove.com Addiction is the compulsive use of any substance, person, feeling, or behavior with a relative disregard of the potentially negative social, psychological, and physical consequences. This definition of addiction creates a much broader—and more accurate—picture of addiction, which we will demonstrate in much greater detail throughout the remainder of this article. Addiction is not a disease. Addiction is a response to pain. Real Love But not just any kind of love will do. The only kind of love that can fill us up and make us whole emotionally is Real Love. Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. It’s also Real Love when other people care about our happiness unconditionally. With Real Love, people are not disappointed or angry when we make our foolish mistakes, when we don’t do what they want, or even when we inconvenience them personally.

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Abuse in Relationships - It's All About Control

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Abuse in Relationships - It's All About Trying to Control

Ironically, many batterers do not see themselves as perpetrators, but as victims. This reasoning is common among batterers and abusers. Most batterers enter treatment programs heavily armored with elaborate denial systems designed to justify or excuse their actions; many non-physical (verbal/emotional) abusers never admit their abusive behavior.

It's all about control. There are varying theories about what makes batterers use abuse on those closest to them. One view is that batterers are hardened criminals who commit their crimes in a conscious, calculated manner to achieve the dominance they believe men are entitled to. Others believe abuse is the product of deep psychological and developmental scars, which are not gender specific. Experts have reached a conensus on several common characteristics among batterers -- they are controlling, manipulative, often see themselves as victims and believe that men have a pre-ordained right to be in charge of all aspects of a relationship.

One batterer who has now gone through treatment, says "the beatings, the verbal abuse and the intimidation were all about control. It was like having a new toy," he said. "I had the buttons and I could make her do whatever I wanted. I was trying to intimidate her. I wanted to control her for the simple reason that I knew I could do it. It made me feel powerful."

The issues of power and control are essential to an understanding of Domestic Violence. Domestic Abuse occurs in relationships where conflict is the continuous result of power inequality between the partners and one partner is afraid of, and harmed by the other.

Although it can vary from case to case, and doesn't take into account other forms of domestic abuse, the "Cycle of Violence" can be used as a model for understanding violent behavior. This cycle and its phases briefly are:

• Build-Up Phase - The tension builds.
• Stand-Over Phase - Verbal attacks increase.
• Explosion Phase - A violent outburst occurs.
• Remorse Phase - You shouldn't have pushed me, it was your fault!
• Pursuit Phase - It will never happen again, I promise.
• Honeymoon Phase - See, we don't have any problems!

This cycle concerns actual physical abuse. It does not take into account other forms of domestic abuse that are used to control, such as sexual abuse, verbal abuse, psychological and emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, economic abuse and social abuse. However, the cycle may sometimes also be applied to verbal/ emotional/psychological abuse as well.

Getting Help

There are resources available for batterers, but generally speaking many only seek help when ordered by the courts to do so, and most states spend no tax dollars on treatment for batterers, usually offering only incarceration in jail or prison as a solution. Putting the abuser in jail will stop the violence, but usually only temporarily since no treatment is available. The problem is, involvement of the police and incarceration can actually trigger greater violence in some cases.

The threat of physical harm plus the economic and physical isolation they usually find themselves in makes getting help even more difficult for the victims of domestic abuse. Simply leaving can provoke more and greater violence. This often leaves victims feeling trapped and helpless.